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(This post is unlike me. I hardly write such personal posts. Don’t know why I wrote this. Just spur of the moment!)

 

We met after a long time.

We few, we happy few,we who battled through the 4 brutal years at Engineering and survived! :)

Some we met after just days, some after months and some we met after many long years.

We revived our old memories, went back to those old lost days, We tried to sit together in that College Foyer!

We giggled like children, made fun of each other, laughed till our stomachs ached and tears rolled down our cheeks.

We were settled, well almost everyone of not all. Some were doing jobs, some free lancers and some were just trying to set up their business!

We had met because one of was shifting to Dubai, one of us was getting married!

How fast time had flown away! It seems like it was yesterday that we were in Engineering! We had gone to our IV a few days back and our farewell had gotten over just yesterday!

Now people were getting married, having kids, buying cars and houses!

 

It was late night when my best friend bid me farewell and caught his train at Vikhroli Station! And I crossed the bridge and waited on the other platform for my train – lost in thoughts…

 

Alone I was the Last Man Standing on the platform waiting for the train. Somehow I felt very alone in this world.

People were getting married, going for jobs abroad, getting “settled”. They were doing everything that people do when they “Grow-up”(Not that I wanted any of those things…)

Me? I was just me I felt.

The same old me who had just watched these times flash by. The same old me who was not yet “settled” probably because it didn’t matter to him what people thought…

 

Some crappy music was playing on the phone. Just as I changed the music, the train entered the station. The music track started

Jodi Tor Dak Shune Keu Na Ase Tobe Ekla Cholo Re”

( Bengali for : “If no one responds to your call, then go your own way alone”)

Talk about Irony!

 

And it brought a smile to my face. A smile which was somehow both Sad and Happy. I just don’t know why!

 

Living in Memories of Past,

Pranjal Wagh

 

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Today I forgot to wish a friend on his birthday… Somehow it just slipped off my mind, and then when Facebook reminded me, it was already too late.

This was the same friend, for whom 2 years ago,  I along with my gang, had planned a surprise party, gone in the rains and got a personalized gift and cake and celebrated with all the paraphernalia.

Sadly this is not the first time that this is happening to me. In the past 2 years I have failed to keep in touch, forgotten to even call on birthdays and missed soo many of the group meetings, that I am surprised as to how close I was to soo many of them just 2 years ago!

After Engineering some of us decided to study further, while others chose to work. Busy schedules, different cities and changing telephone operators kept us apart.

“Yeh dosti… hum nahi Chodenge…todenge dum magar…tera saath na chodenge…”.. I remember the day distinctly like it was just yesterday…. we all sitting together.. singing songs proclaiming our friendship until eternity….

 

Just one year ago, as a new joinee in my Company.. we were sent on a 21 day induction.. In these 21 days I formed great friends, some really good people… but again, all that has remained are some facebook acquaintances.

“So, like whats’ your problem?? You cant expect to keep in touch with 600 friends (my fb count ;) )”, somebody asks me.

Well nothing. Its just that……….

I sweared it would never happen..

I proclaimed it would never happen..

I hoped it would never happen..

I wished it would never happen…..

And yet it did…

Well I guess… pal do pal ka saath hamara.. pal do pal ke yaarane hai … and I better get used to it….

 

Abha Deshkar

22/4/2012

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Dedicated to Rutuja, Navneet, Neha, Anupam, Sujan,  Priyam, Aditi, Sanket, Saurabh, Sayuri, Radhika and those times.

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“Tell me if you want to else just forget it”

“fine.”

“ok fine!”

And thats how it ended.

I should have known better.

“Forget it. She will tell us if she wants too.”  Another friend suggests.

Nothing new. I’m used to this. I’ve always learned it the hard way. Friends crying and then claiming to be OK.

“Tell me what happened?”

“Dont ask” I’m told. “If she needs help she’ll ask for it…”

 

Mumbai has taught me many things.One of them is the “DONT KNOW DONT CARE” attitude.

· You see a man lying dead on the platform.You look the other way and walk away. “Sorry..but I have a train to catch.”

· You know through somebody that your friend is going through a tough time. “Has she asked you to help?”     “No. But….”    “Then just stay put..”

· There something going at the neighbours. “Just shut the damn door”

You know what, I don’t even blame you guys. Its been ingrained into for too long now to change.

 

Sorry but the place I was brought up was quite different. If my friend had a problem I knew she would share it with me …and although mostly I wouldn’t be able to solve it, she knew I would do everything I could to pull her out of it. Ditto applied for me. And so I considered it my right to ask my friend if something is wrong.  It was more like a “I-WANNA-KNOW-COZ-I-CARE”  attitude and not  “I- WANNA- KNOW-COZ-IM-GONNA-GOSSIP”  attitude,which is perceived over here. There was a lot less formality and just pure friendship. I didn’t need to ask for help, it just came. Not that it didn’t cause enough problems, but it was always done with good intention. And that is what really counts, doesn’t it?

 

But the scene in Mumbai, I’ve discovered over the years is quite different. And so I guess friends turn into mere acquaintances so soon..But I’m getting used to it, coz when in Rome, do as the Romans do…..

Nowadays I just “DONT KNOW DONT CARE”

 

Disappointed…

Abha Deshkar

20/02/2011

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Many of my blog posts are the result of thoughts, thoughts which spring up in the unlikeliest of places at the unlikeliest of times!

This one has been generated out of a thought that took root in the soil of my mind while I was visiting the Palghar region of North Konkan – touring the Shirgaon-Mahim-Kelve forts and beaches on 28 April 2010.

It all happened when I and my friends Sanish and Manish (the names rhyme! :D ) were travelling from Mahim to Kelve throught the beautiful, narrow, tree covered and tree lined roads of Konkan with tiny villages scattered here and there.We could feel the heat but we were protected from the sun and his artillery barrage of burning sunlight by the presence of trees on the sides of the road.

It was then that a thought came to my mind!

This (Indian) road is like our life!

It is bumpy more often! A smooth ride is a rare phenomenon – even on Indian roads! It twists and turns and makes us reduce our speed of progress.It puts obstacles in our path and makes us stop sometimes and makes us wonder, did I choose the right path? What do I do now to correct my mistake?

Many people commit suicide when they take a wrong turn on the road of life and end up where they did not want to go in the first place! Do we stop travelling at all and just sit there, if we lose our way,while on the road? No! We try to rectify and always, always  try to find (and usually succeed) in setting ourselves on the right path!

Then why not follow the same example in life? Makes sense to me!

The lush green trees that line the road and provide the travellers with the cool and much needed shade are like the wonderful family and friends that we get in our life!

Both do the job of protecting us and also helping us withstand the harsh sunlight of problems in life!Family and friends offer us support when the heat of problems become unbearable. Sometimes a cool breeze which is like an assurance of support or just plain advice, cools us down when things get heated up too much!

But sometimes there are some roads in life in which there are no trees and the sun is shining like there is no tomorrow. In this phase of life problems are available by the ton but there is no one in life – no family, no friends to support you.

It is in times like this that we must find the friend and family in ourselves.

It is in these times, that the long lost advice given by your father-same advice which you had ridiculed and mocked-helps you move ahead!

It is in these tough times, the memories of the soft and heavenly hugs that your mother gave you each day, comfort you.

It is in these harsh times, the presence of a single tree in the sweltering heat is like the assuring hand of a friend on your shoulder.

That same hand which says, “Do not worry! This too shall pass! And you have my support in your endeavors!”.

That same hand which makes a person beaten down to the ground stand up tall and face the blows of life unflinchingly!

It is in these tough times, people learn to live life – own their own!

It is these tough times that heroes are born.

When the tough times do get over (and they always get over) then there are always roads which may not be smooth, but they always have lush green trees to offer you shade!

:D

 

Cheers,

Pranjal A Wagh

28 April 2010

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